You’re making a conscious effort to be more and more mindful lately.  You’re noticing what’s going on in the present moment.  You’re paying closer attention to your partner and his/her cues.  Perhaps you are even making gentle observations about your partner’s behavior and asking him/her about it.  Being mindful can really go a long way towards changing old habits in your marriage.

But what’s next?  What do you do when your spouse is showing signs of upset on the outside AND tells you they are upset on the inside?  And what if his/her upset or anger is about you??

You may have been hoping your partner wasn’t angry with you.  Most of us want to sidestep conflict.  It’s uncomfortable.  Angry people are scary on some level. Read More