Gossip – sometimes it seems we’re surrounded by it. We hear it all the time. It glares at us from nearly every grocery store headline. Have you seen so-and-so’s new haircut? What was he/she thinking? And what about those two? Can you believe they did that?! On the surface, gossiping can seem like harmless, idle […]
Hurt By Hearsay? How Therapy Rebuilds Your Sense of Safety Read More »
Words have so much power. Depending on how we use them, words have the power to inspire, to hurt, or to heal. Think about what you say to your partner. Are you saying words that support and inspire your spouse? Are you using words that soothe and heal him/her? Or are you using words that
Your emotions have a huge impact on your marriage. Whether your reaction to these emotions is to show them on the outside OR to keep outside of your awareness, your reaction might be driving your partner away. After many times of reacting similarly, a pattern sets in. This pattern may be a big contributor to
Get a Grip: How to Keep Emotional Reactions From Hurting Your Marriage Read More »
Has your relationship been going just fine, but every so often you realize the two of you don’t have much fun together anymore? This might seem like no big deal, but be warned: this can set the stage for infidelity. As life and responsibilities get in the way, many couples inadvertently put their relationship on
Don’t Let a Lack of Fun Lead to an Infidelity Read More »
When people learn that I’m a therapist, they often ask me how I can spend all day listening to other people’s problems. Many people imagine that my job is very difficult and draining. For some people it might be, but it’s not that way for me. I do this job because I love it. I
What Makes Your Therapist Tick? Read More »
I usually write about allowing our feelings to be felt, to be talked about, and to be shown. Today, I’ve been thinking about the opposite: containing them – and how to know when to do what! Containing our emotions means to hold back how we’re feeling from someone else. It’s what we do when we
Containing Our Emotions: When It’s Helpful To Hold Back Read More »
Most of my clients have some kind of challenge in their relationships with others. The struggle may be with a spouse, a friend, a family member, a co-worker, a child, a neighbor, or a landlord. No matter who the struggle is with, we often discuss what someone else said or did and how my client
I recently read a FABULOUS book that I’m eager to share with you. The title is, “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks and it’s chock full of new learnings that can have a profound influence on you. It certainly did for me. According to the book, there is only one thing that is holding you
In my therapy practice I often hear married couples say, “We’ve fallen out of love” or “I’m not sure I love her/him anymore.” These statements are made with great sadness and a clear sense of hopelessness. The couples, who feel that the romantic love is gone from their relationships, begin to doubt the value of
What Does It Mean To Love Your Spouse? Read More »
Have you ever seen someone have a very strong reaction to something that seems minor? From your perspective, you’re wondering what the big deal is. Why are they getting so upset? Of course, this happens all the time in marriages and other intimate relationships. We see our spouse “freak out” over something small. Often, we
You can purchase Meredith's book for $9.95 on amazon.com
Are you ready to improve, strengthen and enhance your life and relationships? You can start here by picking an appointment.