Have you ever heard someone declare “If my partner ever had an affair, our relationship would be over. I would be done!”? Although that’s easy to say, in reality, if you are the one in that situation, it is a lot more complicated, especially if there are children involved. At Couples Therapy Center of NJ, […]
It IS Possible to Heal After an Affair! Read More »
Ask any couple- what is the most frequent source of arguments in relationships? We have all heard it before; what do couples fight about – money and sex! While this may be a true statement and there may be a lot of fighting happening around your sex life, sex and intimacy can be one of
How To Argue Less About Sex and Enjoy it More Read More »
Mindfulness has been a buzzword lately. It means being in the present moment – noticing where you are, what’s around you and what you’re feeling. It’s being aware of what’s right here, right now without judgment, without wishing it were different in some big or small way. I’m going to show you how mindfulness applies
Mindfulness in Relationships: Advanced Couples Techniques Read More »
We’ve all been in this scenario with our partner-we get angry over something they’ve done (or not done) and we approach our partner with our anger. It’s likely we have the expectation that they will understand why we are upset, apologize and all will be right again. But how often does this scenario take place
Don’t Avoid Fights—Just Fight Fairly! Read More »
I was scrolling through my Facebook feed recently and came across an article that intrigued me but, as I read it, it made me increasingly angry. It was entitled “10 Signs You’re Going to Marry Your Boyfriend Someday”. As a marriage and family therapist, of course, I find these articles interesting and they often
Busting The Myths of Marriage That Cause Disappointment Read More »
It is a New Year and a great time for self-reflection, growth and making positive changes in our lives! It also becomes a great time to look at our relationships, and see how we can make them more satisfying and stronger. Often, when we reflect on how to improve our relationship we focus on our
Make Your Relationship Your New Year’s Resolution Read More »
Has your partner ever said to you “You’re being too sensitive”, “It’s silly to feel that way”, or “Don’t be sad, just cheer up.”? Often, responses like these to our partner’s emotions are said out of caring and a desire to make our partner feel better. After all, when we love someone, we never want
Validation Does Not Equal Agreement Read More »
If you’re focused on your kids’ academics and sports, you may be missing the boat. More than ever, society defines success for our children as good grades, how many activities/sports they participate in, and even how many friends they have. Beyond participation, we’re taught they need to excel in order to succeed in life. Consequently,
What is the One Crucial Skill You May Not be Teaching Your Children? Read More »
by Meredith Keller & Debby Deroian Some emotions have a very bad reputation! Sadness, fear, shame and jealousy are all considered negative and things we ‘shouldn’t’ feel. We get the message we shouldn’t feel these things from society, from mass media and from our families (both when growing up and presently). The reality is that
Responding to the ‘Bad’ Emotions: Effective Ways to Manage Anger & Sadness Read More »
by Meredith Keller & Debby Deroian Most every couple has experienced that argument in which you escalate one another until you are caught in a negative cycle of defensiveness, anger and/or hurt feelings. When couples get caught up in these types of arguments, the original issue has little to no chance of being resolved. These
Tools to Communicate So Your Partner Can Actually Hear You Read More »
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