Welcome to the Power Struggle.  This is a normal stage of marriage, but it certainly doesn’t feel normal.  In fact, it feels awful.

All of us want love and attention.  When we received these things from our spouse early in the relationship it felt wonderful.  Now we find ourselves feeling hurt and angry.  In response, we do what we used to do as children to get love and attention: yell, scream, withdraw, and pout.  The power struggle is a cry for connection.  It occurs, in part, because we are doing what we know how to do in order to get love and attention.  Ironically, doing these things gets us the opposite of what we want.  Although we long for connection, we are unconsciously sabotaging ourselves from getting it.

As adults, we need to find new ways to get the love, attention, and connection we desire.  Imago Relationship Therapy helps us accomplish this by teaching couples to use language as a tool of connection and by helping couples reconnect in fun and meaningful ways. Read More