When I first talk to clients about how to set goals I am always met with strange looks and disbelief.  The conversation usually begins with people telling me what’s not going well in their lives, what’s difficult for them, or what they have too much or too little of.  I always ask them, “What do you want instead?”  Often, just naming what they do want is a stretch for people.

I ask them to describe to me, being specific and using plenty of detail, what they want. I hear things like,  “I want to trust my spouse again.”  “ I want to land a great job.”  And “I want my kids to listen to me.”  We then take these statements and make them a lot more specific. Read More