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Light up Your Partner’s Holiday With A Gift That’s Just Right

November 29, 2011 by admin in Holidays | Leave a comment

You know it’s coming soon: an important holiday and you need to buy your partner a gift.  But what to buy? You have NO IDEA.  You’re wondering what it is they’d like, you’re trying to guess, and as the date gets closer, the stress is setting in.  You want to get him/her just the right thing, but you don’t know what that is!

You CAN light up your partner’s holiday with a gift that’s just right.  It starts with an Imago teaching that says each person has his or her unique way of seeing the world.  Therefore, one person cannot claim to know how the other sees the world until the other person communicates it to him/her.  What does this have to do with gift giving?  More than you think! Read More

The Art of Gift Giving: The Platinum Rule

November 21, 2011 by admin in Holidays | Leave a comment

Remember hearing the Golden Rule when you were a child?  It simply means treat others as you would like to be treated.  It is a great standard.  Well, it’s since been upgraded to the Platinum Rule.  The Platinum Rule means treat others as they would like to be treated.  Wow, what a difference!  The best way we can treat another is the way they would like!  This tenent fits so beautifully with Imago Relationship Therapy.  Imago teaches that each person has his or her unique way of seeing the world.  One person cannot claim to know what is true for another person until the other person communicates it to us.

What does this have to do with gift giving?  A few weeks ago, someone dear to me read aloud an article listing gift ideas for your Valentine.  What struck me was: how could we choose a gift for someone from a list written by someone else?  Reminds me of the Golden Rule: buying gifts that, to us, sound like a great idea.  Read More

Finding Holiday Happiness: How To Cope with Feelings of Lonliness and Sorrow

September 23, 2011 by admin in Holidays | Leave a comment

Everywhere we go we are bombarded with advertising and store merchandising in celebration of the holidays.  Images of being surrounded warmly by friends and family abound.  While these images paint a beautiful picture of joy and the holiday spirit, the reality is that some people feel happy, while others do not.  Many people feel loneliness and grief for their losses during the holiday season.  Although there is no media blitz shouting it to the world, it is actually quite common to feel sadness this time of year.  And denying that you truly feel this way may actually increase your feelings of sadness or inadequacy.  For some, trying to avoid these feelings causes depression, anxiety, stress or illness.  Others, in response to the massive marketing campaigns with jingling bells and falling snow, try to avoid feelings of loneliness by overcompensating with abundant or expensive gifts. Read More