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What Your Therapist Won’t Say: Keeping it Confidential

July 9, 2011 by admin in Therapist | Leave a comment

Can you keep a secret?  For many people, keeping something confidential can be quite difficult.  Think back – was there ever a time when someone confided in you and you had a hard time keeping it private?  Or how about a time when you trusted a close friend or family member with a secret of your own, only to discover that your secret had been revealed?  Having your confidences exposed in this way can be devastating.  It can leave you feeling embarrassed, hurt, and betrayed.  Sadly, some people make the decision not to trust anyone ever again.  That decision may leave you feeling protected, but you also end up feeling isolated.  Therapy offers you the chance to try trusting again.  Because your confidences are protected legally and ethically, anything you discuss with your therapist will stay between you.  Your secrets ARE safe here and this is very valuable and healing on many different levels. Read More

Get A Grip: How to Keep Emotional Reactions from Hurting Your Marriage

May 11, 2011 by admin in Emotions | Leave a comment

Your emotions have a huge impact on your marriage.  Whether your reaction to these emotions is to show them on the outside OR to keep outside of your awareness, your reaction might be driving your partner away.  After many times of reacting similarly, a pattern sets in.  This pattern may be a big contributor to the difficulties in your marriage.

People react differently when they have an emotion inside. S ome people are overreactors and some are underreactors.  An overreactor is very obvious.  When they’re emotionally triggered by something, they can react with their body.  They might clench their fists or jaw, stomp around, point, or stand up to appear bigger.  You can see their emotions in their face: anger, sadness and crying, or disappointment.  They can also react with their voice by yelling, raging, cursing, using sarcasm, bemoaning, complaining, or non-stop talking. Read More

What Makes Your Therapist Tick?

April 11, 2011 by admin in Therapist | Leave a comment

When people learn that I’m a therapist, they often ask me how I can spend all day listening to other people’s problems.  Many people imagine that my job is very difficult and draining.  For some people it might be, but it’s not that way for me.  I do this job because I love it.  I was drawn to doing this type of work and it’s perfect for me.

Why?  Because I notice people and their relationships.  I can feel what they’re feeling.  I can feel their painful feelings and I know how to help them feel better . I may be in a restaurant and notice a couple at another table who haven’t said more than two words to each other the whole meal.  I can see the discouragement and disconnection on their faces.  The passion and excitement is gone and I feel for them. Read More