Here are three of the most popular myths about marriage: 1. I’ll never feel lonely again 2. If we have good sex, we’ll have a good marriage 3. My spouse should make me happy We assume that securing a life partner will ‘cure’ us of feeling lonely (and a host of other painful emotions). But […]
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by Debby Deroian, Practicum Student-Therapist under the supervision of Meredith Keller LPC, ACS Imagine: You and your partner are finally having a much needed date night. This took a month to happen due to several cancellations with work and kids’ schedules! You are in the middle of dinner when your partner’s phone rings, and as
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What is Intimacy? Is it tender and emotional sex each and every time? Is it sharing everything with one another? Is it constant closeness and togetherness? Popular belief says that those things make up intimacy, but that’s misleading AND unrealistic in a long-term partnership. For how could we possibly be together with our partner all
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Imagine: you and your partner have planned a trip to a great summer destination. You each pack your own bags, arrive together and unpack when you get to your room. Your bag contains: books, boardgames, movies, candles, an eye mask, massage oil, and an assortment of teas. You’ve been looking forward to lazy days lounging
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Have you ever been going about your daily life, when suddenly something your spouse says or does is so reminiscent of what your mother or father once said or did, you can hardly believe it?!? It can be quite unsettling to see negative traits your parent(s) had now demonstrated by your spouse. The positive traits
Wow! My spouse can be just like my mother/father! How did that happen? Read More »
Your emotions have a huge impact on your marriage. Whether your reaction to these emotions is to show them on the outside OR to keep outside of your awareness, your reaction might be driving your partner away. After many times of reacting similarly, a pattern sets in. This pattern may be a big contributor to
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I usually write about allowing our feelings to be felt, to be talked about, and to be shown. Today, I’ve been thinking about the opposite: containing them – and how to know when to do what! Containing our emotions means to hold back how we’re feeling from someone else. It’s what we do when we
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In my therapy practice I often hear married couples say, “We’ve fallen out of love” or “I’m not sure I love her/him anymore.” These statements are made with great sadness and a clear sense of hopelessness. The couples, who feel that the romantic love is gone from their relationships, begin to doubt the value of
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At times, marriage brings joy and fulfillment. At other times, it can be full of frustration, conflict or boredom. During these difficult times, you may wonder, “Did I marry the wrong person?” or “Why is this so hard?” These thoughts or feelings can be especially discouraging when you compare this to your early romance when
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Are you married to a loyal and loving partner who’s been asking you for more sex? Does the thought of more sex make you roll your eyes or leave you feeling completely uninspired? Often, in relationships, there are times when one partner has a higher sex drive than the other. In some cases, it is
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