When The Pot Calls The Kettle Black: Dealing with Projection

“You’re so passive! Why can’t you stand up for yourself?!” “You’re over-involved with your family. Don’t you consider me!?” “You’re too emotional! You need to be more logical.” “You get enraged over the smallest things. You should be more accepting.”     Ever find yourself hating something about your partner? Who hasn’t? Once the initial [...]

How Saying ‘No’ to Others Can Mean Saying ‘Yes’ to You and Your Relationship

Your boss asks – or rather pressures – you to work this weekend.  A deadline is quickly approaching and your contribution is crucial. But, you already had plans with your family.  You feel stuck choosing between your job and your family. Your parents or in-laws seem to make plans for you most weekends. It’s either some [...]

Receiving Love From Your Partner: It May Be Closer Than You Think

Does the love/caring seem to be missing from your relationship? Do you suspect that you both still love each other even though you don’t show it? Many couples still have love between them even though it may not be apparent on a daily basis.  In so many relationships, the love is buried under layers and [...]

When Your Relationship Feels Flat: How Humor Can Help

Is the fun, light-hearted side of your relationship missing?  Do things feel dull and blah between you and your partner?  Do you have more fun with people other than your spouse?   Have things felt this way for a while?  It’s likely that things were dramatically different at the beginning of your relationship: it used to [...]

Share Your Passion: Teach Your Children To Love What You Love

What is it you love to do?  Are you passionate about a sport, hobby, career or music? As parents, we want our kids to love the same things we do.  We want them to experience the same joy we experience.  Is there a way to make this happen? Can we teach our children to share [...]

Experiencing Your Full Range of Emotions: Why It’s Important

Everyone experiences painful feelings from time to time.  This is a normal part of the human experience, just as joy and excitement are part of being human.  Times of sorrow, grief, despair and fear are unavoidable.  In spite of the fact that experiencing these painful feelings is normal, many of us have spent a lifetime [...]