Most relationship experts don’t agree with the advice below. Read on to see how we refute these very common, but unhelpful, ideas: 1. You can change your partner. 2. If things aren’t going well, continue to live together but stay as separate as you can. 3. The kids come first. 4. Don’t go to bed […]
Did you find yourself getting frustrated about the same things with your partner over and over? You’ve stated your requests again and again – why can’t your spouse just GET IT? Does it seem you’re both stating the very same things during each conflict? You are not alone. Many partners have core fights that they […]
Following the baby’s arrival, the daily household tasks that need to get done can explode. Between cooking, dishes, diapers, bottles, ordering and/or shopping for household items, cleaning, and laundry … tasks can be endless. There are decisions and purchases that have to be made and, for many, being conscious of a budget. The stress and […]
There is plenty of misinformation about couples’ sexual relationships online. It’s troubling because: a) searching for answers to questions online is SO easy; b) it can be difficult to know if you’ve found reliable and valid information that’s based on work done by experts; and c) you will come across worst case scenarios. And there’s […]
When you think of how sex is portrayed on TV and in movies and porn, it’s pretty unrealistic. Most of these (heterosexual) participants are thin, attractive, young and unmarried (to each other, at least). Only recently married couples have been portrayed having sex. This sets us up to believe we should have a certain body […]
Do you have an unsupportive partner? Has one of these scenarios happened to you? You’re hurt by something your sister did but your partner doesn’t seem to care. Something major just happened and your partner seems distracted and disinterested as you’re telling them. You’re angry about how you were treated at the bank and your partner tells you it’s not a big deal. You’re worried […]
Have you tried couples counseling and it didn’t help? Even worse, it harmed the relationship? Since that experience with therapy, perhaps the conflict or distance remains the same; or perhaps the relationship has been deteriorating. You may even be desperate for help. You sometimes think about returning to counseling but haven’t because it didn’t work […]
Do others perceive you two as the ‘perfect’ couple yet behind closed doors it’s far from perfect? Perhaps, you have successful careers, a big, beautiful home in Basking Ridge, high achieving children but you’re not happy. Maybe there’s lots of arguing over big decisions AND petty items. Maybe you or your partner gives the silent […]
There is nothing quite like defensiveness to take a conflict from a minor disagreement to a full blown argument. Have you ever experienced something like the following scenario? You are feeling frustrated with your partner because they didn’t let you know they were running late coming home from work. When they walk in the door an hour later than expected, you are angry and […]
Although it is something that can be so difficult to talk about, it IS something that many men struggle with. Erectile Dysfunction is a problem that compounds itself, meaning that one instance is a disappointment and also may cause concern that at the next opportunity it will happen again. That anxiety is part of what […]
