The common (and incorrect) assumption about relationships is that if we just find the right person, then we’ll always be close. We start in Romantic Love where we can’t get enough of each other. During this early stage of love, we are each other’s most passionate supporter and in sync sexually. Most people believe that […]
Valentine’s Day and The Myth That Couples Should Always Be Close Read More »
Most people are good at complaining and making negative comments about the things they aren’t happy with. It’s so easy to nag, pressure, nitpick and criticize. The critical comments roll off our tongues so easily; we often make them without giving them a second thought. Think about it – how many times have you voiced
Getting What You Want: How Asking the Right Way Can Help You Get It Read More »
Every once in awhile, something unprecedented happens and we suddenly find ourselves out of our normal routine and dealing with either minor inconveniences or extreme difficulties caused by circumstances beyond our control. Let’s think about the impact of a natural disaster such as a superstorm. During the aftermath of a storm, lives are disrupted. Most normal
Relationships: Finding Harmony, Even During Hardships Read More »
When you’re upset, do you tend to pull yourself inside or express yourself outwardly? Do you clam up? This is the Avoider Style of reacting. Do you persist in talking about the issue? This is the Pursuer Style of reacting. Which is your ‘go to’ reaction? And, could your reactions be making things worse? What
Will My Avoider or Pursuer Reaction Style Help Me Get My Needs Met? Read More »
If you’ve been with your partner a long time, it’s likely that your sex life is vastly different now than it used to be. Couples in long-term relationships tell me all the time that they’re having less (or no) sex, and that it’s plain vanilla – the same tried and true position, or quick and
Sex: An Expression of Many Parts of Yourself Read More »
You’ve just had a huge fight with your partner. You’re still fuming. Does the situation seem hopeless, insurmountable, or like there’s no way out? Does your mind immediately turIn to thoughts of separation/divorce? When you have those feelings, what do you do with them? Do you explode them out or keep them hidden? Conflicts can
In the Heat of the Moment: Keeping Your Emotions from Causing More Damage Read More »
You know it’s coming soon: an important holiday and you need to buy your partner a gift. But what to buy? You have NO IDEA. You’re wondering what it is they’d like, you’re trying to guess, and as the date gets closer, the stress is setting in. You want to get him/her just the right
Light up Your Partner’s Holiday With A Gift That’s Just Right Read More »
Remember hearing the Golden Rule when you were a child? It simply means treat others as you would like to be treated. It is a great standard. Well, it’s since been upgraded to the Platinum Rule. The Platinum Rule means treat others as they would like to be treated. Wow, what a difference! The best
The Art of Gift Giving: The Platinum Rule Read More »
Are you taking your partner for granted OR, even worse, focusing on what she/he isn’t doing or saying? If you wish your partner would change, and have already asked, pleaded or begged for these changes to be made, it’s time to stop. Not only will this fail to bring about the changes you desire, it
Giving Thanks for Your Partner: How Appreciating the Good Can Transform You Read More »
Do you sometimes wish your partner acted, thought, or did things more like you? Instead of being frustrated by your differences, it would be a better use of your time and energy to acknowledge your partner’s strengths and find ways they can benefit your relationship. Everyone has areas of natural talent and areas where they
Different From Your Partner? How This Can Be A Strength Rather Than A Problem Read More »
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